Destiny..8

I have been asked this question several times and until now, I find it difficult to answer with either just a YES or a NO.

"Do you believe in destiny?" It's a close-ended interrogative yet when you have chosen to answer with a yes or a no, you can't help yourself but elaborate trying to justify your answer.

Well, I guess...Destiny is another word for not having a choice. Don't you think so?!..8

 

10 Things I Hate About You (Own Version)

I hate the way you treat me And the way you talk to me
I hate the thought that you're so far I hate it when you seem so free
I hate your bloody red nail polish And the way you kiss my arm
I hate you so much it makes me sick That it even makes me smile
I hate the way you're always tough I hate it when you're cold
I hate it when you make me laugh Even worse when you make me a fool
I hate the way you block me on facebook And the fact that you don't have time
But mostly, I hate the way I don't hate you Not even close Not even a little bit Not even at all

For this someone whom I used to know so well...8

Quotes for the Heart-Broken

I guess I am one and hoping to get out of it soon. Really really soon. I am not in a hurry though. I will give myself some time to recover and enjoy every moment of misery and promises of forever.

"How happy you are isn't determined by how many things you have, but how thankful you are for the things you have."

"Love knows no reasons. Love knows no lies. Love defies all reasons. Love has no eyes. But love isn't blind. Love sees all but doesn't mind."

"The one who has seen all your weaknesses but still thinks that you're the best thing that ever happened to him/her is the one worth loving."

"If you can't get someone off your mind, maybe they're supposed to be there. Remember, the mind can recognize what the heart is trying to deny."

"True lovers aren't the ones who desperately change each other, but the ones who successfully grow up together."

"Words are the language of the mind. Tears are the language of the heart. And silence is the language of the soul."

"People fall in love not knowing why or how. It's a very special feeling that doesn't require any answer. You just love no matter how stupid you become."

"You want and you get it - it's luck. You want and you wait - it's time. You want but you compromise - it's life. You want, you wait and you don't compromise - it's success!"

"You can never know the future; you do the best you can in the present by learning from the past."

"Say good words about others. You do not know when it will comeback to you."

God doesn't give the things we want, but the things we need. God doesn't give the people we want, but the people we need. Have faith."

" The best relationships are the ones with people who enter your life by accident but stays on purpose. "

" Sometimes, no matter how much faith you have, you lose people. But you never forget them and it's those memories that give you the strength to move on."

"If you love someone, you will be willing to give up everything for him/her. But if they love you, they will never ask you to."

"Don't look at your pasr relationships as failures but rather, as opportunities to learn and improve your relationship skill."

"Never be sad for what is over, just be glad that it was once yours."

" Don't be afraid to love. For in loving comes the strength to fight for what you believe is fair."

"Sometimes it takes sadness to know happiness, noise to appreiate silence and absence to value presence."

"It's painful to say goodbye to someone you don't wan to let go but more painful to ask someone to stay when you know they want to leave."

"The right one would never think that he/she is too good for you or you're too good for him/her. The right one thinks you're good for eacht other."

"The only people you need in your life are the ones who need you in theirs. Never make someone a priority if he/she makes you only an option."

"It's tough when someone special starts to ignore you but it's even tougher when you have to pretend that you don't mind."

"Real loss occurs when you lose something taht you love more than yourself."

"The onyl reason people hold on to memories so tight is because, memories are the only things that don't change when everything else does."

"Don't leave so much room in your future foe someone who just left you on the past."

"There is always someone for everybody. Just because you don't meet them right away doesn't mean you never will."

"No one can ever promise you they'll never hurt you because at one time or another, it will happen. The real promise is if the time you spent together will be worth all the pain in the end."

:(

Boomerang

This I think is the perfect song that would describe my situation in life particularly - matters of the heart. And this is according to a good friend too. Relate with me if you want. Here's BOOMERANG by PLAIN WHITE T's from the album WONDERS OF THE YOUNGER..


The fire was out
But then the phone rang.
And all of the heat came back again.
As much as I try
You're hard to resist
All that it takes is just one kiss

And I'm putty in your hands
I'm under your spell
You send me spinning

You pull me in close,You throw me away
I keep coming back like a boomerang.
You tell me to go,You beg me to stay.
I keep coming back like a boomerang
Around, around, around and back again.
Around, around, around and back again.

You're treating me like I'm your little toy
You tell me I'm not like other boys.
The next thing I know you toss me aside
You don't even bother with "Goodbye"s.

But when you say, "Hello"...I can't ignore you
You send me spinning.

You pull me in close, You throw me away
I keep coming back like a boomerang.
You tell me to go, You beg me to stay.
I keep coming back like a boomerang

Around, around, around and back again.
Around, around, around and back again
Around, around, around and back again.
Around, around, around and back again.

Boom,Boom,Boom
And now my heart is racing
Boom,Boom,Boom
And after you I'm chasing
Boom,Boom,Boom
You got to catch me when i fall.
You send me spinning

You pull me in close,You throw me away
I keep coming back like a boomerang.
You tell me to go,You beg me to stay.
I keep coming back like a boomerang

Around, around, around and back again.
Around, around, around and back again.
Around, around, around and back again.
Around, around, around and back again.

20 Ways To Be Truly Happy

I have read so many articles. I have spoken with quite a number of people. Some are considered to be amateurs and some could be experts. They all have different sets of beliefs and principles with regard to almost every aspect of our human lives. Most of all, they all have different ways on how to to be truly happy. Not only that, maybe, on how to live as a good person.

Until one day, I came across this site (I forgot the address though..pardon me) that listed 20 ways on how to be truly happy. Read on...

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risks.

2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

3. Follow the three R's:
a. Respect for self
b. Respect for others and
c. Responsibility for all your actions.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6. Don't let a little dispute injure a great relationship.

7. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8. Spend some time alone everyday.

9. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.

10. Remember that silence sometimes is the best answer.

11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.

12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation of your life.

13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.

14. Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immmortality.

15. Be gentle with the earth.

16. Once a year, go some place you've never been before.

17. Remember that the best relationship is the one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

19. If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.

20. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.


There they were. Hope we can practice all of them to achieve a beautiful and meaningful life.
Have a great day everyone!..8

..February 14, 2007..

It's gonna be All Hearts Day and it would just be a day filled with romantic exchanges of thoughts and stares. Everything may just be filled with red roses and chocolates of any kind- romantic symbols of love.

Certainly, the doubtfuls may just be batting some eyelashes at the super mushy manifestations of those who are lovestruck. As they say, Love is blind. Some people may tend to be so demonstrative, so showy in all its form but actually has no substance at all.

The kind of celebration that we do have has become a commercial enterprise, a money-raking industry wherein most people - ordinary, elite and celebrities capitalize on.

From simple dinners into concerts, from roses into chocolates and cards - they all have one thing in common - sky rocketing prices.

Does love has a price? What is its price?

The answer would definitely depend on how much you would want your celebration to cost you but the bottom line here is this: It's how you put emphasis on what you really feel toward that special person and not the amount you've spent on it. As the cliche goes: It's the thought that counts.

A simple greeting would do, a personalized card, a verse or a poem...

So here are some verses and quotations from famous people who have made their share in greeting us without spending so much - just touching our hearts.

"One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry." - Oscar Wilde

"How do I love thee...Let me count the ways..." - Elizabeth Barrett Browning

"Her love, it's like the wind. I can't see it but I can feel it." - Shane West (Landon Carter), A Walk to Remember

"Le coeur a ses raisons que la raison ne connait point ( The heart has its reason which reason knows nothing of)." - Blaise Pascal

"When a lovely flame dies, smoke gets in your eyes." - Otto Harbach

"When my love swears that she is made of truth, I do believe her though I know she lies." - William Shakespeare

"There are two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart's desire. The other one is t0 get it." -George Bernard Shaw

"True love brings up everything - you're allowing a mirror to be held up to you daily." - Jennifer Aniston

"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." - Alfred Lord Tennyson

"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Robert Frost

"There is no remedy for love but to love more." - Henry David Thoreau

"To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return. To just give. That takes courage, because we don't want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt." - Madonna

"It all falls down to who's by your side." - A Walk to Remember

"The only regret that we have in this life are the risks we didn't take. If you found that something that makes you happy, grab it with both hands and to hell with the consequences." - Anonymous

"Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all." - Michael Masser and Linda Creed

"You never say sorry for loving someone. You never say sorry for loving me." - Claudine Barretto (Toni Villacorta), Got to Believe

"eventhough i am hurting, i'll never be sorry for loving you. eventhough i am hurting, i'll still keep on living. and eventhough i am hurting, i'll still be loving you... even in silence..." - Ma. Riva Lynn V. Tubid

"I will never hate you for not loving me but i will... the moment I see you crying with the person you chose to love instead of me." - Ma. Riva Lynn V. Tubid

Each and everyone of us is entitled to experience the most passionate, the sweetest treatment we could ever get. And if you ever lost that one opprtunity to be with someone, you may always take a look back and dwell on the blessings you've just had.

It doesn't mean that if you don't see him, he doesn't exist - he does! You just have to believe. He may not happen today but he's sure to happen.

"Love the one you have. He/she may be the best thing that ever happened to you."

"If you are alone, love yourself. It's better than being stuck in a sham of a relationship. Being alone, in meaningful solitude, is great for the soul." - Maria Victoria Rufino

(photo from: reader's digest, rdasia.com)

..I love You in spite of..

What hurts the most?..

When you can’t fight for that one thing that would make you happy...

I may never be the person you look forward to seeing every day but I will always be the person who will look out for you each and every day.. Men are haunted by the vastness of eternity and so we ask ourselves: Will our actions echo across the centuries? Will strangers hear our names long after we are gone, and wonder who we were, how bravely we fought, how fiercely we loved?

Love is when you can't sleep.. it’s when you want to keep your eyes open..
Love isn’t when you keep holding on.. it’s when you learn to let go..
Love isn’t when you kill yourself with jealousy.. it’s when you understand..
Love isn't when you fall for someone.. it’s when you catch that person when she falls.. Love isn’t when you see her everywhere.. it’s when you close your eyes and she is still there..
Love isn’t when you tell her what you feel.. it’s when you give everything for her sake.. And love isn’t when you think you were blind.. it’s when you know she was wrong but you didn’t mind.

..Birds and Fishes..

"if a bird fell in love with a fish, how could they live? can one fly with fins? can one remove its wings? how pathetic...love can never change what's not meant to be"

"is there something wrong? what made you think that a bird would fall for a fish? we both know that they were not made to be together."

"you may be right but you also know that when it comes to people, there are birds and fishes, they fall in love unexpectedly, and they change unconsciously all because they love each other..."

"now i know how pathetic i am because i am a bird who has fallen for a fish...sadly...love can never change it"

"don't worry, anybody can lose one fight"

"you're definitely right, but it never entered my mind that i'll be losing the fight i never want to lose..."8

..Top 10 Rejection Lines by Women & What They Really Mean..

Isn't this really funny? but hey! do you really mean it? just asking...

10. i think of you only as my brother. (you remind me of that ''hobo'' in front of the billiard hall.)

9. there's a slight difference in our ages. (i still have my ''lolo'' you know!)

8. i'm not attracted to you in that way. (you're the ugliest dork i've laid my eyes on and even if i'm blind, i wouldn't bump into you!)

7. my life seems so complicated now. (please don't be another burden!)

6. i've got a boyfriend. (i prefer my male cat. i'd rather be a lesbian and be OUT!)

5. i don't date men where i work. (i'l better resign!)

4. it's not you. it's me. (it's really you.)

3. i'm concentrating on my career. (even something as boring and unfulfilling as my job is better than what?! date with you?! nyyorkh!!!)2

2. i'm celibate. (i've cursed men like you!)

1. let's be friends. (you better get lost man!)

Now tell me, are these all true?! Good for you!..8

..7 Dating Sins Steadies Must Not Commit..

1. Making your steady sweat through 20 minutes of overprotective parental interrogation.

2. Pretending that you know about something he prefers to when you really don't.

3. Responding "yeah right!" my hair looks really cool when he compliments you on your gorgeous looks.

4. Ordering the priciest thing on the news.

5. Talking about your future together when you haven't even kissed yet.

6. Landing into me-me-me dialogues and never asking him a thing about himself.

7. Talking about your painfully lonely pre boyfriend days.

..The Distance Between Us..

I love you so much and that is true and it has never been a secret. I'll do whatever you ask me too. And that same love that I feel for you frustrates me at times that...

- I can't wrap my arms around you
- Whisper at your tender ears
- Cuddle you close to me
- To be beside you during your times of doubt and uneasiness
- To see you through good and bad times
- To lift you up during your deepest lows or
- To caress your tender loving face

Sometimes I resort to imagining you with me, doing the things that we love the most...

- doing fun activities together
- walking frantically
- laughing laudably
- crying
- talking
- sharing happy moments
- gazing into each other's eyes and
- even staring at each other

We are very much apart but through it all, we managed to remain close and become even much closer each and everyday. Miles can never break that special bond between us. That distance frustrating me is the same distance that keeps me holding on. So if you're feeling sad and blue, remember that I'm feeling the same way too and always remember that I do care...

I can no longer imagine the world without you and me...8

..Love & Like: The Difference Between..

try to figure this out and ask yourself.

when you like someone, your heart beats faster but when you love someone, you're happy!

when you like someone, winter is just beautiful winter but when you love someone, it feels like springtime in winter (just like the song)

when you're looking at someone you like, you blush but when you look at someone that you love, you smile (hmmnn...)

when you like someone, you can't say everything in your mind but when you love someone, you can!

when you like someone, you tend to get shy but when you love someone, you show your own self.

when there is the presence of someone you like, you can't look at him/her straight in the eye but with the presence of someone you love, you can always look at him/her with a smile...

when the person that you like is crying, you cry with him/her but when the person that you love is the one crying, you may kill for him/her...???

the kind of feeling that you have for the person that you like starts from the ear but the feeling for the person that you love starts from the eye.

so if that time comes that you finally want to stop liking the person that you used to like, all you've got to do is to cover your ears but if you'll try to close your eyes and that moment happens, the love that you have for him/her will turn into a tear flowing down your cheek and that will remain forever in your heart...

define yours...8

Subtle Press Release..

friday, 1130 pm, sittin' all alone in an empty chair, my mind's bogged down by the thought of you, i looked through the glass and rain began to pour. as the tears dried up my cheek, i began to wonder, "why am i alone?" i missed those days when you were still with me, when we used to enjoy each other's company. i really did have a great time everytime you smiled, i really did have a great time everytime you entered my mind. 2 hours had passed, i was still searchin' for you, waiting for a single message from you. how i loved those quotes, how i loved those care, how i loved those exchanges that would last till the end of day. i knew...you knew... and we both knew that time was against us and we're actually chasing it and now that you have someone even closer than i, i am afraid of loving you for i might break apart...ooppss...wait...i can now hear a sound...nah! it's just another missedcall...8

Aisle of View

loving someone is such a wonderful feeling and it becomes even more wonderful when reciprocated but what happens if the kind of love that you are giving is not even appreciated? it hurts...i know...and that's true especially if you know that the person you're in love with feels the same way...for you. mutual? yes! but...''the other'' can't go on with a life and can't even tie a relationship with you. there even came a point that choosing became ''the other's'' option. unfortunately, it went the other way. the only consolation you've got was being a part of the selection. ''you told me you love me, that i am important to you then why does it have to be like this? i just don't get it! you could have chosen me and yet...ok! you don't want to hurt me but you actually are hurting me! you're killing me softly and even burrying me 20 feet under slowly. if i could just turn back the hands of time, i wish i never met you but then again...never in anybody's life that time was unfair. while some others hoped for something like this, like the one we have (that i don't even know where to stand), i have it and i am really hurting signifying that i am sharing those stolen moments with you. and eventhough i am hurting, i'll never be sorry for loving you. eventhough i am hurting, i'll still keep on living. and eventhough i am hurting, i'll still be loving you... even in silence...

(espesyali dedikeyted tu ey clows frend of mayn)..8

Bedrock

in maintaining/sustaining a relationship, both must always understand each other's expectations. blame must never be a part of the system and guilt must be left and avoided. be ready of forthcoming insecurities. from minor grievances into resentments come pressure-packed situations that would develop into simple yet explosive confrontations. then time will demand you to be together and sometimes to be apart. it's a good sign if you could control the urgency and the feeling to keep the situation and further complications under control. most of all, remember of one another's individuality and identity that "you are still you" bear in mind that you are two different people simply sharing and binding a single time..8

Unintentional False Hopes

''there are things that aren't suppose to happen or rather occur but again choices are not of service to us but rather we are made of service to unexpected choices."

by just saying that, for sure things are now beginning to come into your risky mind that somehow you have just delivered false hopes to someone...not just anybody else...but to someone of so much importance to you.

being in a situation like that would definitely make one think and ask: what is it really about me? there must really be that something. in one's case, that something is unidentifiable and i do understand (that's what i always do). when it comes to feelings, as much as possible, i don't want to interfere! in the first place, what do i really know abour your feelings? for other people who doesn't even know what the heck is goin' on they would definitely think that you are someone who doesn't care! caring has always been in your system the reason why you can't afford to hurt someone but by simply doing so, you're unconsciously hurting him by giving him that little glimmer of hope brought about by your actions and you're out to tell the whole world (if you can) "that's not what i meant" again i do understand. of course there came a point that you really wanted to end this all up but it's not that easy but how could you give another start if you don't know how to end it? and ending doesn't mean that you also stop loving him but ending to stop hurting him. i might sound so crazy and stupid but if it's the proper thing to do then do it!!!

the world is really paradoxical: we need to go down to be able to go up; we need to be separated to be together; we need to live with the past to live with the present and the future; and most of all, we need to let go to let it all in...8

Unintentionally Implied

i recently found myself on the verge of breakin' out when on the day of the ash, something unnoticeably came up. for so many years i tried (asap) not to hurt anybody's feelings. i am very much careful that my criticisms doesn't hurt the feelings of others. unfortunately, i did, but i didn't mean it. but still, i did! on that day, if i could still remember it right, i lost my senses, i didn't know what was happening around me, and i felt so much pressure on my shoulders that i suddenly blurted out somethings, some thoughts and that was it! i have hurt her feelings. it was nothing (til now it still stands it was nothing) it wasn't really the thing that i wanted to imply... i still have hurt her. i already said "sorry" this time i mean it not because i was guilty or anything but because whether i intentionally hurt her or not, whether i liked it or not, the point is that I HAVE HURT HER IN WHICHEVER WAY SHE THOUGHT IT TO BE...5 days had passed and i haven't heard anything from her side that's okay i understand (that's what i always do) maybe she's trying to cool herself off. if nothing happens, at least i did my part...

then i asked myself and some people who saw what happened, 50% said, i had my fault. fine! 40% said, none! 5% said, "ok lang yon lalamig din yan", and 5% "nodded" and i don't know how to interpret it. if that is the case, i don't know where to put myself into.but 1 person surfaced by saying "wala akong nakikitang mali dun rivs hindi lang siya sanay sa kultura ng klase niyo na lahat e nagtatawanan...kaya akala niya napahiya siya." sana ganon nga...still i've hurt her...

so! "can we talk later"8

Juliana Palermo: "Hija, uti na lang maganda ka"

it has been 3 months since the last time i spent watching television shows and one of them is DEBATE, aired by GMA7 every thursday night. so i got so excited when i turned on the tv set and discover that the said show's gonna be tackling the english language, if we filipinos are really "nangangamote" when it comes to it.

on the we're not "nangangamote" side there was mr. monico puentebella, camille roxas, and juliana palermo. on the other side were former DECS secretary nilo rosas, cong. amang rodriguez magsaysay and comedienne beverly salviejo. at first glance, the topic seemed to be okay and i was really expecting some positive outcomes if proven that we filipinos are really not that good in english. unfortunately, it was the other way around. beverly started telling stories about her experiences as a teacher. she said that it would be very hard for her to teach if she doesn't have enough command of the language. she also emphasized that several subjects like math and science really needs to be taught in english. after a while, juliana palermo (kung sino ka man) said that "math is not english", "science is not english". "math is all about numbers and they are not english". ok, ok, i get your point but i want to ask you, won't you find it difficult to teach math and science using tagalog? i think you will! sige nga you translate in tagalog the terms square root, cube root, differential calculus, integral calculus, pag nagawa mo baka maniwala ako sa'yo!!! regarding the sciences, chemistry, and physics, sa tingin mo kaya mong tagalugin yung mga topics na itinuturo ng mga teachers? like sodium bicarbonate, trinitrotoluene, metamphetamine hydrochloride, etc.? again, if you can, baka pumasa yang sinasabi mo. unless you could do it, i won't believe you!!! how dare you say that as of this time the philippine society is being bombarded with a lot of bisaya and konti na lang ang tagalog? if i could still remember it right, you said "nakakahiya!" for your information, the people you've been calling "bisaya" are the only people you can consider as the good speakers of english. how about you? during the debate, you cannot even speak english fluently and articulately! kung saan ka man galing bumalik ka na lang doon. don't you dare do that again!!!..8

Top 10 Rejection Lines by Men and What They Really Mean

hey guys! are these for real?! just be sure... if not these will come back to us a thousandfold!!!

10. i think of you as a sister. - (you're ugly!) >>> i'd rather not be born noh!!!<<<

9. there's a slight difference in our ages. - (you're ugly!) >>> i'd rather die young!!!<<<

8. i'm not attracted to you in that way. - (you're ugly!) >>> same here!!!<<<

7. my life is too complicated right now. - (you're ugly!) >>> my life will too! if i'm gonna be with you!!! yikes!!!<<<

6. i've got a girlfriend. - (you're ugly!) >>> talaga?! may nagkamali?! i pity her!!!<<<

5. i don't date women where i work. - (you're ugly!) >>> work?! eh tambay k lang dyan sakanto! hobo!!!<<<

4. it's not you, it's me. - (you're ugly!) >>> yah know what?! it's you!!!<<<

3. i'm concentrating on my career. - (you're ugly!) >>> career-in mong mukha mo!!!<<<

2. i'm celibate. - (you're ugly!) >>> you'd rather be!!!<<<

1. let's be friends. - (you're ugly!) >>> mukha mo friends! as if namang gwapo ka!!! i'd rather be single all my life.<<<

these are men's top ten rejection lines just to be fair, i decided to present them with what i call women retaliation! dapat lang siguro!!! as if namang gwapo itong lalaking ito para umarte ng ganito. beware!!! guys, let's face the mirror first!!!..8

English Everywhere

during my seventeen-year odyssey which i spent studying, something unexplainable keeps on nagging and knocking at the back of my head. what is so astonishing about education that most of us have to have? and the most intriguing of them all, why does it have to be taught with a language that we're not very much familiar with? english!!! a friend to whom i asked this question answered hastily, "because english is better than tagalog!"

most colleges here in the philippines have subjects that are taught in english. if you have noticed, even the song by F4 (a taiwanese boyband who have just conquered manila), has an english title--Can't Lose You, and even the line leading to the chorus "baby-baby." simply because there are no taiwanese translation for the words. and even if there is, it couldn't be sang as smoothly as we can. true it may seem, but what really are the things that make the two languages differ? let us see.

grammar: english and tagalog have their own sets of rules when it comes to that. thank you very much to my former english teachers who has taught me tough imperfectly, at least i have an idea. english grammar is very complicated, before you could start learning it, it takes a lot of hardwork and perseverance. and! if you are really interested and very determined to learn the language, it would be as easy as eating peanuts. on the other hand, tagalog has its own rules too. since we are filipinos, it would be very easy but the problem is that, we sometimes couldn't express what we want to say and the last option is to say it in english. therefore, we prefer english.

competitiveness: americans have the most number of businesses, companies, and investments here in the philippines. it is so because we filipinos are better speakers and they prefer us to be their employees and workers because of that. and english again, shows even more dominant through the interviews they conduct. so, if you were not trained with the language from the school you've been to, it would be very hard for you. the tagalog language is okay if you're going to work for a filipino employer, but if you want to be more competitive, the english language is the key.

in short, english really is better than tagalog. whether in school, at work, or in any endeavor wherein you have to speak. but if i were you, i wouldn't just rely on the language. no matter how good you are, no matter how fluent, articulate, and how eloquent you are, if you don't know how to handle yourself and you don't have the courage, it's nothing!!!..8